Sex? Pause. Condom. Action!

As any frisky couple about to have a romp in the sack will tell you, nothing can quite kill the mood like fumbling around the bedside drawer in the dark for want of a condom.

When it comes to mind-blowing, sheet shredding sex, spontaneity is the way to go. There’s nothing quite like the idea of being taken, sexually, then and there, by someone we desire. A condom is the last thing on your mind. Sometimes you are too busy tearing each others’ clothes off to stop and even ask. Most of the time, a lot of us are usually just too embarrassed to pause in the middle of frenzied passion to stop and negotiate safe sex.

If you avoided having the ‘safe sex’ conversation during the earlier stages of a relationship, chances are you will be faced with this situation the next time you have the urge to go horizontal on each other. Stopping to put on a condom puts passion on pause, and by the time you’re both set to go, you’ll find that you’ll have to start over again.

Because you can not have unprotected sex, getting your partner to engage in safe sex is a something both of you should willingly indulge in. Introducing condoms as a part of foreplay is effectively one of the best methods to go by. With a wide range of condoms of varying shapes, forms and flavors available on the market today, safe sex can even be titillating and can further add to the excitement. Make it a point to use condoms of reputable brand names such as Durex, Trojan or Magnum to ensure quality protection and to prevent unwanted accidents.

Always remember to keep a spare set of condoms nearby, so as to avoid running out to the nearest pharmacy in the middle of the night, half dressed and in a near state of panic.

Practicing how to put on a condom is also important, so as to avoid mishaps which could forgo, and sometimes, end, sexual intensity.

Another method of having effective safe sex without putting a damper on things is by using the female condom. Hailed as a breakthrough in female empowerment when it was first introduced in 1992, it can be applied up to eight hours before intercourse, allowing women to freely engage in guilt-free safe sex regardless of whether their partners use condoms or not. Surveys have also indicated that both parties derive more pleasure from the use of a female condom than the traditional ‘male’ one.

Finally, the key ingredient to having a good safe time is to keep your mind open and sense of humor on. Remember that sex should also be fun; allow yourselves to laugh at each other if the condom wrapper refuses to tear. In this way, you’ll also be able to connect with each other better and find it easier to re-achieve intimacy, regardless of any hurdles you’re encountering along the way, including fumbling with that bedside drawer. And as anyone will tell you, if you’re too uptight, you just won’t enjoy the sex anyway, period, regardless of whether you paused to put on that condom or not.